Narcissists have secret lives. They lie effortlessly. They are two faced-appearing with a perfect public image that most people believe. In the shadows, when no one is looking, they do tremendous damage to family members, including their children. Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D, Clinical Expert on the Narcissistic Personality
Narcissism is the pursuit of gratification from vanity or egoistic admiration of one’s own attributes. Narcissists feel superior to others but they are not satisfied with themselves as a person, says Dr. Eddie Brummelman, fellow at University of Amsterdam & Stanford University.
According to Dr. Craig Malkin, a Harvard Medical School Instructor and clinical psychologist, while there are several types of narcissists what they all have in common is “self-enhancement”. Their thoughts, behaviors, and statements set them apart from others, and this feeling of distinction soothes them, because they’re otherwise struggling with an unstable sense of self…a pervasive disturbance in a person’s ability to manage his or her emotions…
In recent years narcissism has been bantered about as never before. It was first as a result of the proliferations and access to electronic media particularly the rapid growth of social media and its usage.
Then it has been exacerbated by the election of President Trump and his dramatically public narcissistic behavior. It is important for us all to understand this behavior for what it is and how it can affect us and those around us.
Narcissism is a curse both to the narcissist and to many of the people around them. It is a curse to the narcissist because of the latent insecurities that cause them to feel the way they do.
It prevents them from being able to fully accept and enjoy other people. Rather they are always busy finding perceived faults with others to make themselves feel superior.
The narcissist can be a tragic figure who has usually experienced some defining emotional experience at a young age. If you are a caring and compassionate person it is natural to feel sorry for others who suffer including narcissists. But beware!